Bridge...

I was having small discussion with my boss and an associate... and the associate asked my boss "what to do with the client" coz now, we sort-of... Dont need the client already.. do we throw them aside? or wad?

My boss was saying "No, keep the relationship lah.. dont burn any bridges"... yup, when you are an auditor  a consultant.., it's important to keep as many bridges as possible... u'll never know how fate bends the road and cause the two of you to meet again...

V good advice, boss!

N after tat, at night, applying it to the current situation in my life, somehow I realise that yup, i shldnt burn any bridges with friends too, right?? So, tried to keep the bridge stay... and well.. shall we say that the bridge was just... burnt?

So, yup, what my boss said is true.... we are not supposed to burn bridges, but if the other party burn the bridge? who are we to comment? Are we supposed to even put the effort to build the bridge back?

I'm in the "MOOD" to think, and plus, with the recent incident, I have really been thinking alot... what ifs came to my mind... like what if I didn't say those words.. what if I have said more words... what if I have not done this and thats this and thats...... and the conclusion is, sometimes it is just difficult to make EVERYONE happy.. and sometimes there's really no point of proving or showing your point of view, when the other party does not even want to change their microscope to a telescope..

And so, tho 1 bridge was burnt... I may not make the effort to build it back, but again, if sometime in life, I am to meet you again, and you want to extend the bridge, I shld be fine with the arrangement....

Really?

After giving it much a thought.... sometimes.. you are friends with one person for over than 10 years... and tho there are alot of complaints and bickerings, you made up... but sometimes, after meeting the same person for more than 3 times, you already give up on that person..... what is the driving force?

 It's the material of the bridge =D

For the first case, it could be your childhood fren or ur best of friends, your bridge is built with a concrete... something that is more solid and not easily breakable... tho there may be thunder, fire and storn between you, it'll just..... PASSED... and the bridge still going on strong.. Tohoshinki said, "asu wa kuru kara" XDXD ... An example is, well.. maybe you don't see the person often, maybe you know the person is not always there, but that person WILL always be there for you... and you kinda have a "clearer" vision of what kind of person that person is, and you accept it..

Some bridges are made of tin..... after a few punches here and there, you'll see dents here and there... tho the bridge still holds, it may not look pretty.... I imagine the friendship to be.... hm... not so sturdy, there are quite a few "distrust" here and there, but after all, you decide to trust and go on with the person... maybe there are days when you hear something this and thats from others and you decide to doubt the other party... but in the end, when you somehow learnt the truth, your friendship lives on..

Some bridges are made of wood.... tho it looks strong and sturdy, when there's fire, it's most probably will not last... this shows that the two pillars supporting the bridge did not make the effort to "coat" the bridge with a stronger material... The friendship of this type may be prone to alot of suspicions and doubts... Trust has not been laid down.... or, there is mis-match of expectations one party thinks the other party SHOULD be like this and thats,.. well, I personally think that as we grow older, the kind of bridges we make, is made of wood.. coz you no longer make the effort to know the other people, or when a doubt clouds your mind, you stopped.......... this kind of bridge, if noone walks on it, it'll be mouldy, smelly and often left to slowly be eaten up by time..

The last type of bridge I could think of, is made of thread...... so thin, so fragile and almost invisible...... interactions are based on a "mutual" (one-sided) purpose... whether or not the thread is there..... can't really see, can't really feel it..... =p When something happen, e.g., the "mutual" (one-sided) purpose is not met, the thread can easily snapped and disappear into the thin air and never be seen again.... 

Eh... there shld also be the grass bridge... looks pretty and beautiful and when you try to step on it, you find out that you can only walk a few steps before falling off the bridge.... XD..... ok.. i cant think of any "real good" example for this, but from movies, this could look like the "someone" that you met during orientation and you could hit it off.... but somehow the person "steal" away the happiness from you (anyway, i dont believe this, okay! i believe happiness can always be found in your own heart... it's not something that SOMEONE ELSE can step on it or steal away, so HAVE FAITH GUYS! hopefully dun hav such pple around in real life)....

Anyway...let's try to assess the "bridges" that are in our lives.. people who have walked in and out of our lives... assess your bridges... =D is it there? is it STILL there? are they dirtied? burnt? needs some polishing? or you are ready to build a stronger bridge? 

But of course, building bridges are not easy... Sometime you make the effort to build a strong bridge.. from your side, it looks like a concrete bridge... you may want to boast it to the world that you have the strongest bridge with someone... but from the other party's point of view, your bridge is Tin compared to other bridges in his/ her life..... 

 

Well, I think it's normal... in friendship, I think you are my bestest of friends whom i THINK you should always be there when i need a listening ear, comforting shoulder or a hug or WADEVER....... but the truth is, you could be just a "friend" to that other people... If i were in this position, (ive been in this position), it sucked.... big time... but again, you have two choices... to continue building a stronger bridge, or stop there and let the bridge rots with age..... your choice....

If you choose to build a stronger bridge, by all means =D go all the way..... stopping half way is, well, I believe is worse than not starting at all XDXDXD also, there's no reason for you to change your bridge to a thread if your goal was a concrete bridge..... 

When you are wondering why other parties are doubting your sincerity, sorry to say, but most probably, you dont have sincerity in you............ and it kinda show..... True sincerity, i believe, glows without the need of explanations or boasting....

Remember that the key of building stronger bridge is Sincerity..... however, sincerity with only just talks are not sincerity at all XD

 

so, what bridges do you have in stock? XD